18 then 15 days Left - The Eulogy That was Never Given

My grandmother, Mama Ling, finally arrived here in Cebu for she wished that here should be her final resting place. So for the past 3 days we held a wake in our chapel where I slept over for the night thinking that for the last time I am able to sleep near her for she used to sleep beside me all my elementary days.

I was asked to deliver a eulogy on the day of our funeral but however the ceremony was continuous that I never got the chance to give it. So might as well share it here...

The 8 Lessons I Learned from the Best Grandmother in the World: Mama Ling

1. Love Your Dogs

Of all the people in the house, its only Mama Ling who gives great attention to our dogs especially Keisha our "outdoor" poodle. She was the only one who remembered to give great care to Kiesha, giving her bathes and comb, for the wonderful years of service in our family. I'm sure our Lord also would grant Mama Ling the goodness of eternal life after how she had served Him through serving her family.

2. Never Settle for Less
Mama Ling together with Papa Mimi has lived in the US for quite some time already. And so they often send us "balikbayan boxes" or stuffs to her families here in the Philippines including my relatives. And Mama Ling is always the one looking for NEW things for us. She would often us ask us what's new or what's in and she would do her best to provide us with that without us having to ask. She always sees to it that we, our families and relatives, deserve more. Improve and improve never settle for less.

3. Exercise! Take Good Care of Your Health

No one beats how mindful Mama Ling is to everybody's health even she is thousands of miles away from us. She always reminds us to take good care of our health. Telling my mother to pick the right kind of food, my father to get a move on and exercise, and for my sister to eat..a lot!

Why give so much concern of health?

The one thing I still cannot comprehend was the fact that My Mama Ling suffered and died from a sickness she didn't do to herself. She had a rare hereditary cyst on her kidney that made it malfunction so she has to go on dialysis 3 times a week for the past 4 years. So for 4 years, 3 times a week, a long and thick needle is being plunged to her arm left and right or to any part of the body with a good vain for her dialysis.

And about 2 years ago cancer cells were found in her lungs that was described to be caused by too much exposure to firecracker powder around their place during her younger years. So she had to undergo a painful chemotherapy through a tablet that would often bring her nausea, sleeplessness, heaviness, skin irritation, and hard breathing.

You cannot just imagine her suffering! Unlike most of us where we get sick due to unhealthy habits hers was something she was innocent of. And she does not deserve it!!! The only gratitude I could get from this was that she shared a similar suffering with our Lord. "Thy will be done."

4. Never Ever Give Up!

All her colorful and dozens of medications, the unwarned strikes of her sicknesses had never stopped Mama Ling. The only complain we heard from her was that she was already so tired but she never gave up. She could have had given up easily, stop helping herself, but she chose not to. Why?

5. Have Powerful Goals

Studies show that most elderly people tend not to look to the future, there is nothing to look forward to. But Mama Ling was different. She always has something to look forward to and hers was to come back to the Philippines and attend the college graduation of my sister next March 2011. This is very rare for a dying person, but this thought helped her survive. She had to carry the weight of the suffering, she has to fight a losing battle so she can spare some money to send for my sister's schooling. Her goals was simple but that kept her forward...on and on and on.

6. In the End, it's Always the Family that Matters

All her life, Mama Ling lived it all for her family. If there is one word above "mother" then she would be it. No person had showed me the value and importance of a family. Normally, at the later years, people would often sit back relax and enjoy their retirement but Mama Ling was the opposite she chose to continue serving her family while suffering silently her sickness. She might have not became successful in a career or in wealth but her true wealth was found in the family she had brought up through the years. The success of us all in our different fields was all because of one loving mother who never failed us once.

7. Love 'till It Hurts No More

Now the hurt is gone and Mama Ling found her peace.

Mama Ling loved us all and showed it to us even as our distance hurts her so much and more the pain she carried in her sicknesses. No distance can stop her love, no cancer can stop her love, no problem can stop her love, and no pain can stop her love. She has transformed the most painful of all innocent sufferings into the most wonderful form of love. Mama Ling has loved us all...day by day...year after year...till it hurts no more.

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I promise to live by these lessons.
And live my dream sharing her story.

20 then 19 Days Left - Stop Pursuing Succes, Attract Success!

Attracting Success!!

The past 2 days has been quite fast, jam packed and oh so inspiring! Just a little flashback...

I told you about my boss whom I'm helping out to sort things out on how she manages people, well we can't see change right that instant. But you know what keeps me going is the fact that she's very much interested on learning especially from the book , The Way of the Shepherd. And I am happy with that! I'm excited when she reaches the crucial part on dealing with difficult sheeps and leaving a mark on your sheep.

Speaking about that leaving a mark. I am currently coaching one department supervisor I have whom I am eying to be my successor. My main goal is to have as many duplicates as I can in the company. And one of our latest lessons is "How to Leave a Mark to Your People." She is a leader that gives a damn about her people and that's what I like about her. My other supervisors do but she has this deep level of connection to her team. So our aim is to make it official that she be branded as the supervisor who looks after each and every one of her members...deeply.


So for the first time in years, I asked her to call out each of her member one by one and drown them with compliments and positive feedback. The results are amazing. Never had she been so fulfilled, her people felt elated, and she never thought she would hear good things from them. It's that simple. Now, trust is built, morale soars high, sales will follow! hahaha!

By the way, around 80% of them during their interview asked her, "Natakdan na kang Sir Hanz Ms.?" "Has Sir Hanz got in to you Ms.?"

Absolutely. That's my mark.

And about a friend who asked help on her career through YM, she's now back on track. We have been exchanging emails helping her sort and weigh options before she decides. I helped her open her eyes of what she found herself in to, and lift her from the unnecessary pressures of family and people. Because in the end, its all about her. There's nothing wrong with having 3 jobs in 2 years! That means she is searching, and she's different from stubborn people stuck in companies they hate for the rest of their lives! Seek and you shall find!

And so, I pointed out to her that this is the best time to fix everything, know her goals, her purpose and which path to take. And she's doing her homework just fine!

Also this afternoon, it's official that I'm mentoring another supervisor of our company. After lending her the book 8 Secrets of the Truly Rich she wants to do something next but don't know how. And that's what we're doing now.

I'm just wowed by her interest she really spent time to look for me in my area. You could see that need in a person by looking at her eyes, and she needs help. And I'll do all my best to help her out!

Our main goal first is to improve her self-confidence as she wished and level up her leadership skills. Actually we can do those 2 together. My first assignment for her is to get to know her team one by one - Know Your Sheep. And my second one is that she should read books - feed her mind with the wisdom of the world. I'll surely keep you posted on this.

By the way, she has became my business partner too! She agreed that she'd work on as researcher for my pending ebook - Stories Millionaires Read. I just love how God works magically!

Another magical thing! My aunt is now in the Philippines, with the wake of my grandmother, and you know what, she's now my business partner! What? Real Estate!!!

Her story runs great with her success in real estate 3 years ago. How? Self help. She was only reading books and attending seminars about it. This was also one reason everything flunked when the US had economic crises around 2008 where she lost "Dong, you cannot imagine how much". I told her, "Te, one lesson learned is to have a team or a mentor in business venture." If only someone had told her! She said, "I was just too late to learn." But I blurted out, "No, you were a year early!" 

We promised to talk more about it some time after the wake. But our set-up would be she'd help me out investing here in the Philippines. I can't believe how magical God's Universe is when I attract things!

All of these things are manifestations how God and His universe would conspire to help us if we help ourselves by helping others.  People who need help and guidance come to me, and people whom I need help and guidance come to me as well! This is because I am in focus, I have a goal, I have a team, I have a mission, I have a dream, and its God's dream too, and He will in all His power help me Get it!

35 Days to Go - My Dreamboard

Do you know what this is?

All millionaires know and understand what this is power of visualization...

You might ask why I had just made my dreamboard at this time of my journey. This should've been posted back in 88 days left. But this 90 day challenge is a journey of endless self-discovery. If i posted this back then, I'm pretty sure it would all be cars and houses. But this one here, has all my REAL dreams, my dreams with value and purpose. Not just materials but achievements that are priceless.

I need not explain this...

it speaks for itself.